Rediscovering the 'Me' in 'Mumeeeeeee'

'I have always thought that there is no more fruitful source of family discontent than a housewife’s badly-cooked dinners and untidy ways'. (Mrs Beeton's Book of Household Management, 1861)

May 11, 2010

Why I'm taking a short break


Regular readers (that's you mother-in-law!), may have noticed that I've been a bit quiet in blogland of late. The reason is very simple - time. Or rather, the lack thereof.

I've written before about
the reasons why I blog - they are many and varied. I'm proud of my blog and of reaching my first blog anniversary recently. I've always prided myself on finding the time to turn on the PC, let alone to write anything which is coherent and of interest to others. But over time, lots of other stuff has started to happen, because of the blog. I dabbled in Twitter and soon found that my dabbling was taking up most of my time at the PC. I've had interest in the blog being published, which is amazing. My inbox is deluged with PR requests, notifications of new Twitter followers, people wanting to be my friend on Facebook and LinkedIn, tagging me with photos on my Wall (I'm still not entirrely sure where this is!), tagging me with memes and to be perfectly honest, it's all become a bit overwhelming.

I just don't have the time to respond to all this as thoroughly as I'd like to. I don't have the technical ability to set up a comment reply system - I even joined Muddling Along Mummy's Technophobes Training Club and haven't had time to read the posts or do anything with the advice contained within - kind of ironic really, and I've realised that I am simply trying to do too much; fitting in blog posts between nappy changes and running the bath, rushing up three flights of stairs to the attic and back down again to type in a few more words while the dinner bubbles away on the hob (no, I don't have a laptop) and working at a PC which is a bit buggered and always crashes when I'm in the middle of reading and commenting on other blogs....you get the picture.

What started out as a joy of writing and a way of keeping the brain active after losing my job has now, itself, become a full-time job. A job which I don't have time to do! My real job, first and foremost is to be mum to my boys and secondly, is to establish a credible career as a freelance writer.

I really, really, want to write a publishable book so I have to get some time back for this. I also really enjoy writing my articles, which also help to pay the bills. I also, very much, want to continue being involved in the blogging community which I love and am looking forward to meeting fellow bloggers at CyberMummy and to congratulating the winners of the inaugral MADS awards...it's just at the moment, I'm worrying about the blog related things I haven't got round to doing, rather than enjoying the blogging I am doing.

So.....I think I need a bit of a blog break to sort this all out, regain some balance in my life and stop feeling guilty if I haven't commented on anyone else's blog for a few days. A blog-iday if you like. A blog-cation. OK, just a break, a step back to put it all into perspective and as we head off on holiday this week, it seems as good a time as any to do this.

I'll still be posting my rambling thoughts - just maybe not as regularly. And I'll still be dropping in to read all you other brilliant bloggers as often as I can.

Think of this as a brief intermission. Or a mid-season break. Whatever phrase works for you. But just remember, that 'we were on a break'.

Right, I'm off. I have a case to pack and a cluttered mind to empty.

HCM
xxx

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22 comments:

  1. I hoppe you come back all refershed and better from your break and if you want me to help you pop Intense debate on just mail me (you know where to find me)!!

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  2. Good for you, HCM. I admire you for honouring where you're at, for taking stock and for realising that, while you are a super mum, you're not Supermum. Nor should you be.

    Take the time you need to do what you need to do. We'll be right here for you when you get back.

    Hazel x

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  3. We'll be here when you get back. Enjoy your blog-iday! X

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  4. Hats off to you for recognising when you need to take the foot off the pedal - or fingers off the keyboard as it were.

    Understand perfectly where you are coming from. A break will do you the world of good.

    LCM x

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  5. Have a good break and read you again soon!

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  6. helloooo. I just came back frm a blog break and I feel soooooo much better! Have a lovely holiday. xx

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  7. Enjoy your break. Look forward to a refreshed you in the future.

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  8. Congrats on the interest from publishers!!!! that's brilliant :) In the same spot at the moment myself re: taking a break. was just about to write about it when I read your blog! Best of luck. x

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  9. Oh sweetie have a good break - congratulations on the publishing interest (how wonderful is that!)

    Look forward to meeting you at Cybermummy

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  10. Enjoy the break, I think every blogger comes up against this at some stage. I'm writing my food blog for over 3 years and am struggling with it a bit at the moment too but I've put too much time and effort into it to stop! There's just too much now with FB, Twitter etc plus you HAVE to get a laptop:)

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  11. Good for you - it can be very overwhelming, and the bottom line is the children and the paid job come first and second. I was off for 3 weeks whilst my feeder was on the blink and felt really fresh and excited to pop back to blog-land. I'm sure you will feel much better with time to clear your mind, and your e mail box with all those lovely publishing offers! Keep in touch if you have time via e mail, and thanks again for all your help 6 months ago when I first started. x d

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  12. I'm so impressed by the pubishing interest (just a tad green with envy!!) and wish you all the best for a well-deserved mini-break. Perspective hides in bushes in the country where you're not looking for it. I'm sure you'll be back soon revived and raring to go!!

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  13. I'm really happy to read this. I have all these same feelings. Blogging can really suck you in and it is important to set some boundaries for protecting your personal life. I am thrilled with the friendships and connections the blogosphere has opened to me, but sometimes I have trouble finding my balance. Happy to hear you are finding yours!!

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  14. What you write is so true, I am finding it a bit overwhelming as well at times and trying to keep the blog going and apply for jobs, do interviews, look after 2 kids, entertain them (which doesn't mean they looking at the back of a PC screen) and other little necessities such as cleaning, cooking etc Enjoy your break!

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  15. Enjoy your break. I had a 6 week one recently for Lent and it was just what the doctor ordered. Mich x

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  16. Enjoy your break and let us know every now and how things are.
    Happy holidays! ;)

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  17. Can you get me some get up and go when you get there, please? Have fun... enjoy the break!

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  18. Good for you! I've been feeling the strain a bit too recently.

    I'll still be here when and if you return!

    Happy Blogolidays!

    :)

    xxx

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  19. Have a lovely blogiday and I'll see you when you get back! =)

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  20. Have a nice break - I'm finding it hard to fit it all in but don't have the probably of having much interest so I just stop and start sporadically lol!

    Hope you're back soon.

    Ellen. x

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  21. Sounds sensible Hazel. It also sounds as if there could be some really exciting opportunities ahead which is fabulous! I am blogging less at the moment and I expect that will continue for the foreseeable future. It became a full-time job for me too but it has resulted in further freelance work which I'm not focussing on, pleased creative writing (a teenage book), and I'm studying too. So like you, there just isn't time. Do come back and let me know how it is all going when you get a chance. I'd love to know how you are doing. And I'll see you at Cybermummy. Rosie x

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  22. hi! just wanted to say that i am so glad to have come to cybermummy and to have found your blog. you are a most fantastic writer! wow! such a great blog. you have captured motherhood perfectly x

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